Friday, October 5, 2012

Going to the chapel and we're...

This is just a quick personal post to announce that my boyfriend Bobby has asked me to be his wife, and I said yes.

I am really over the moon and very happy and excited. We will get married in about a year, which gives me just enough time to plan my big fat crip wedding.

I might need the help of Franck the wedding planner soon!

It is only when I got engaged that I became interested in weddings and wedding planning, and I was surprised to discover that there is a whole world out there of all kinds of websites and blogs about weddings, alongside with many glossy bridal magazines. However, I quickly discovered that many of those cater to a hetero-normative, non-disabled audience (just like most women's magazines do). During the first week of wedding planning I realised that there were many access-specific things I had to think about, and that planning an accessible wedding would be a huge learning-process for me.
I then got in touch (via a friend of a friend - thanks Emma and Daniella) with the lovely Annabel, who has a hugely successful wedding website called Love My Dress, and she invited me to write a series of articles, one each month, about planning a disabled wedding.

The series is called 'Confessions of a Disabled Bride', and I hope it will not only be useful for disabled brides and grooms, but also for engaged couples that have close friends or relatives that are disabled. My first post is now up on Love My Dress, and it's about my engagement and questions to ask wedding venues if you want to find out about their access.

I am really grateful to Annabel for giving me this opportunity to write about this, and I hope the blog will spark some discussion or food for thought.

I looked much more excited than this when Bobby put a ring on it!